This morning I had a thought. I've been working through this Peace Maker book for a couple of months now. I've liked it. It's hard though, and I haven't been very diligent. In the time I've had it, I'm only about 1/2 way through it. But I'm glad. I'm glad that now when I've returned to it, it is at the very place and chapter that I need to read. I think God has been saving it for me!
Today I want to share with you what it says about judging. Remember that conflict always starts with some sort of desire. When our desires aren't being satisfied, we criticize and condemn either in our hearts or with words.
It is an act of playing God in some respects..
The Bible says, "There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and to destroy; but who are you to judge your neighbor?
Who are you (me)? None other than a God wannabe. In this we become like the devil himself (James 3:15, 4:7) We act exactly like the adversary who seeks to usurp God's throne and who acts as the accuser of the brethren. We play the self-righteous judge in the mini-kingdoms we establish.
Yikes.
Now understand, it is not wrong to evaluate or even judge others within certain limits. Scripture teaches that we should observe and evaluate others' behavior so that we can respond and minister to them in appropriate ways. (Matt 7:1-5; 18:15; Gal 6:1)
We cross that line, however, when we begin to sinfully judge others, which is characterized by a feeling of superiority, indignation, condemnation, bitterness, or resentment.
And this is the part that got me. When I see something out of line, I have the tendency to address it in a fashion that suits myself and not necessarily to benefit them. My pride...the feelings of superiority, indignation, and condemnation is the red flag.
I wonder why it's not received well. And the idol progresses...
Idols always demand sacrifices. When someone fails to satisfy our demands and expectations, our idol demands that he should suffer. We will find ways to hurt or punish people so that they will give in to our desires.
Sometimes we react in overt anger, lashing out with hurtful words or physical abuse. Other times we react in more subtle ways like acting cool toward the other person, withholding affection, acting sad or gloomy, being perpetually critical and unhappy, or even abandoning the relationship altogether.
Such behavior is an act of unbelief. Instead of relying on God's means of grace to sanctify, we depend on our own tools of punishment to manipulate them into change.
In the midst of conflict, have you ever thought of your behavior as judging and punishing? I haven't. I have always justified it as "working through it".
I have so much to learn and so many things to turn away from......
More later.