I have homeschooled now for 17 years. We have 9 kiddos that have been homeschooled since they were born. 1 has graduated college, 2 will be starting college in the fall, and 6 are still working with Momma at home.
When my oldest was kindergarten age, she had 3 little siblings and I was one tired momma! I was busy taking care of my growing family, nursing a baby, trying to figure out how to homeschool, and feeling very inadequate to the task! I felt like I had to do it all. And what if I failed? What if I picked the wrong curriculum? What if there were gaps? And what was all this talk about socialization anyway? What if she never learned to read? How was she going to make friends? And how was my baby son going to play sports when the time came? How could I spend the time necessary when I had so many other people that needed me too? And then what about college??
17 years later and 3 graduations behind me, I have way more peace than I did in those early years. There were many people from all different places that have spoken into my life over the years and helped me to get to a more comfortable place in my homeschooling. And as I am preparing for a new school year and reviewing the tricks of the trade, I thought I'd throw out some of my favorite ideas that others taught me back in the day.
#1. Do not babysit your kids during school.
A single homeschool dad of 12 hooked me onto this philosophy when I was just beginning. He stressed teaching your kids to read and learn all math facts by rote. Then turn them loose! Once they can read, they need to do as much on their own as possible without Mom holding their hand. Give them their assignments, and expect them to read it and do it.
Now I'm not gonna lie. I've had some very "hands-on" friends that do everything with their kids. Even their high schoolers. They have elaborate history programs and adopt the learn-it-together approach. And listening to all they (the WHOLE family) accomplished made me feel guilty, inadequate, and as though I wasn't doing enough. But no matter how impressed I was, with 9 kids there was NO WAY I could ever make that happen.
Then my daughter said something out-of-the-blue one day that gave me great encouragement. You see, my oldest daughter recently graduated college. She was homeschooled every day of her life, received a very generous full-ride college scholarship and graduated with honors in 4 years. She said the thing that benefited her the most was the fact that she was taught to teach herself in our homeschool. She was never spoon-fed information and she wasn't dependent on a teacher to help her learn everything she needed. Online classes were also easy because she didn't need special attention.
Teaching your kids to teach themselves relieves a lot of the pressure of thinking you have to do it all. My kids' successes are THEIR successes. It was their work, their time, their diligence. I just helped to make it happen by expecting them to do it and keeping them accountable.
#2. Stay home during school.
No matter how quick the trip, once I leave the house the momentum is gone. I may have grand plans of picking it up where we left off. But I find that if we stay home we eliminate the re-entry process, maintain momentum, and get a lot more done.
#3. Make a schedule and stick to it.
There's a million different ways of going about it, and here is a site I really like. Their resources are very helpful...especially for first year homeschoolers. Work and re-work your schedule until it fits your family just right. Establish a chore routine and menu plan. The time it takes to maintain this (and it does take time!) will pay off in peaceful days with happier people. If everyone knows what to expect every day there will be less frustrations and more cooperation.
#4. Be Flexible!
Your schedule is only a tool to help keep everyone on track. It's not the boss of you. So if something better comes along, by all means ditch the schedule and go with that! I have a friend that tries to get in 3 full serious days of work in the beginning of the week. Then if the end of the week starts to fall apart, she feels better knowing that most of the week was spent in diligent study times.
Those 4 principles have helped me more than anything else over the years. And as I'm working on our new school schedule, I am keeping these ideas on the forefront of my mind!
17 years later and 3 graduations behind me, I have way more peace than I did in those early years. There were many people from all different places that have spoken into my life over the years and helped me to get to a more comfortable place in my homeschooling. And as I am preparing for a new school year and reviewing the tricks of the trade, I thought I'd throw out some of my favorite ideas that others taught me back in the day.
#1. Do not babysit your kids during school.
A single homeschool dad of 12 hooked me onto this philosophy when I was just beginning. He stressed teaching your kids to read and learn all math facts by rote. Then turn them loose! Once they can read, they need to do as much on their own as possible without Mom holding their hand. Give them their assignments, and expect them to read it and do it.
Now I'm not gonna lie. I've had some very "hands-on" friends that do everything with their kids. Even their high schoolers. They have elaborate history programs and adopt the learn-it-together approach. And listening to all they (the WHOLE family) accomplished made me feel guilty, inadequate, and as though I wasn't doing enough. But no matter how impressed I was, with 9 kids there was NO WAY I could ever make that happen.
Then my daughter said something out-of-the-blue one day that gave me great encouragement. You see, my oldest daughter recently graduated college. She was homeschooled every day of her life, received a very generous full-ride college scholarship and graduated with honors in 4 years. She said the thing that benefited her the most was the fact that she was taught to teach herself in our homeschool. She was never spoon-fed information and she wasn't dependent on a teacher to help her learn everything she needed. Online classes were also easy because she didn't need special attention.
Teaching your kids to teach themselves relieves a lot of the pressure of thinking you have to do it all. My kids' successes are THEIR successes. It was their work, their time, their diligence. I just helped to make it happen by expecting them to do it and keeping them accountable.
#2. Stay home during school.
No matter how quick the trip, once I leave the house the momentum is gone. I may have grand plans of picking it up where we left off. But I find that if we stay home we eliminate the re-entry process, maintain momentum, and get a lot more done.
#3. Make a schedule and stick to it.
There's a million different ways of going about it, and here is a site I really like. Their resources are very helpful...especially for first year homeschoolers. Work and re-work your schedule until it fits your family just right. Establish a chore routine and menu plan. The time it takes to maintain this (and it does take time!) will pay off in peaceful days with happier people. If everyone knows what to expect every day there will be less frustrations and more cooperation.
#4. Be Flexible!
Your schedule is only a tool to help keep everyone on track. It's not the boss of you. So if something better comes along, by all means ditch the schedule and go with that! I have a friend that tries to get in 3 full serious days of work in the beginning of the week. Then if the end of the week starts to fall apart, she feels better knowing that most of the week was spent in diligent study times.
Those 4 principles have helped me more than anything else over the years. And as I'm working on our new school schedule, I am keeping these ideas on the forefront of my mind!







